Self-Leadership Center of Oklahoma
Couples Counseling
Build a Strong Foundation for a Lifetime Together Planning a wedding is exciting, but preparing for a healthy marriage is one of the most important investments you can make.
Provides a safe, structured space where both partners can feel heard and understood.
Sometimes one hour a week isn't enough. Our 6-Hour Marriage Intensive provides couples with dedicated time to slow down, address challenges, and strengthen their relationship in a supportive, focused environment.
Premarital Counseling
Build a Strong Foundation for a Lifetime Together Planning a wedding is exciting, but preparing for a healthy marriage is one of the most important investments you can make.
Premarital counseling provides a safe and supportive space to strengthen your relationship before you say "I do."
At Self Leadership Center, we help engaged and seriously dating couples develop the skills needed for a lasting, healthy marriage.
Through evidence-based counseling, you'll gain a deeper understanding of one another, improve communication, and learn practical tools for navigating challenges together.
Our Approach:
Our counselors use research-backed methods, including the Gottman Method and Internal Family Systems (IFS), to help couples strengthen their friendship, deepen emotional connection, and build healthy patterns that support a lifelong marriage.
What We'll Cover:
Premarital counseling is tailored to your relationship, but common topics include:
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Communication and conflict resolution
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Expectations for marriage
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Trust and emotional intimacy
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Family backgrounds and relationship patterns
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Finances and budgeting
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Roles and responsibilities
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Sexual intimacy and affection
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Parenting and family planning
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Faith, values, and shared goals
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Problem-solving as a team
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Whether you're recently engaged or planning to marry in the coming months, premarital counseling can help you begin this next chapter with confidence and a shared vision for your future.Start Your Marriage Strong
The strongest marriages aren't those without challenges—they're the ones equipped to face those challenges together.
Premarital counseling is an opportunity to invest in your relationship before difficulties arise and to build the skills that support a healthy, lasting marriage.
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Marriage Counseling
Rebuild Trust. Improve Communication. Strengthen Your Relationship.
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Marriage counseling Edmond
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Couples therapy Oklahoma City
How Marriage Counseling Can Help Counseling:
Provides a safe, structured space where both partners can feel heard and understood. Together we'll work to: Improve communication
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Resolve recurring conflict Rebuild trust
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Strengthen emotional connection
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Learn healthier ways to disagree Increase empathy Create shared goals Restore friendship and intimacy Our goal isn't to decide who's right or wrong. It's to help you become a stronger team.
Our Approach: Every couple is unique, so therapy should be personalized.We draw from evidence-based approaches including:
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Gottman Method Couples Therapy
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) - Parts therapy
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
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Solution-Focused Therapy
These approaches help couples better understand emotional patterns, improve communication, and create lasting change.
Every relationship experiences difficult seasons. Whether you're struggling with constant conflict, feeling emotionally disconnected, rebuilding after infidelity, or simply feeling like you've become roommates, marriage counseling can help you reconnect and move forward together.
At Self Leadership Center, we help couples understand one another, improve communication, and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Schedule your first appointment today.
You Don't Have to Keep Having the Same Arguments:
Many couples wait years before seeking help. By the time they begin counseling, they often feel exhausted, misunderstood, or hopeless.You may recognize some of these struggles:
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Communication always turns into an argument.
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You feel more like roommates than partners.
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Trust has been damaged.
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You're considering separation or divorce.
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Parenting disagreements create tension.
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Intimacy has decreased.
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You avoid difficult conversations.
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Small issues quickly become big fights.
These challenges are common, and they don't necessarily mean your relationship is beyond repair.
Why Choose Self Leadership Center?
At Self Leadership Center, we believe healthy relationships begin with greater self-awareness.
Our therapists provide compassionate, evidence-based care in a supportive environment where both partners can feel respected.
We help couples move beyond blame by identifying the deeper emotions, needs, and patterns that keep them stuck.
Whether your relationship is in crisis or you're simply looking to strengthen your marriage, we're here to help.
Frequently Asked Questions:
How long does marriage counseling take?
-Every couple is different. Some experience meaningful progress in just a few sessions, while others benefit from longer-term work depending on their goals.
Do we both have to attend?
-For marriage counseling, both partners typically attend together. Individual sessions may occasionally be recommended when appropriate.
Can counseling help after infidelity?
-Yes. Many couples successfully rebuild trust after an affair. While healing takes time, counseling can provide a structured process for rebuilding honesty, accountability, and emotional connection.
What if my spouse isn't sure about counseling?
-It's common for one partner to feel hesitant. Many people find that once they attend a session and experience the process, they become more comfortable participating.
Marriage Intensive
​A Day to
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Reconnect
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Renew
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Strengthen
Whether you're preparing for marriage, feeling disconnected, or simply wanting to strengthen a healthy relationship, our Marriage Intensive offers the time and space to reconnect and move forward together.
6 hour Marrige intensive counseling in Edmond, Oklahoma Oklahoma City
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Do you ever ask:
How do I fix my Marrige?
How can I help my Marrige?
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Sometimes one hour a week isn't enough. Our 6-Hour Marriage Intensive provides couples with dedicated time to slow down, address challenges, and strengthen their relationship in a supportive, focused environment.
Using an integrated approach that combines the Gottman Method and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we help couples improve communication, understand recurring patterns, rebuild trust, deepen emotional and physical intimacy, and develop practical tools for lasting connection.
Each intensive is tailored to your relationship and may focus on:
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Strengthening communication
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Managing conflict more effectively
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Rebuilding trust
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Deepening emotional and physical intimacy
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Understanding each partner's needs and "parts"Creating a shared vision for the future
Marriage Intensives at the Self-Leadership Center of Oklahoma provide couples with the time and space to slow down, understand what is happening in their relationship, and work on the patterns that get in the way. Instead of trying to fit everything into a weekly therapy hour, an intensive offers uninterrupted time to delve beneath the conflict, comprehend the hurts and reactions each person brings into the relationship, and begin working toward real change. An Integrative Approach Our marriage intensives draw from three complementary approaches: The Gottman Method offers couples practical, research-based tools for understanding conflict, communication, friendship, intimacy, and repair. Internal Family Systems (IFS) each person better understand the parts of themselves that show up in the relationship especially those that feel hurt, afraid, protective, or overwhelmed. Instead of focusing on "Who's the problem?", we can begin asking, " happening inside each of us, and what's happening between us?" Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) incorporates IFS into couples therapy, helping partners recognize their cycles, communicate what lies beneath their reactions, work through relational injuries, and build greater emotional connection.
The goal isn't simply to help couples argue better; it's to understand the deeply enough that something different becomes possible. This includes a pre-intensive assessment and relationship history to tailor the intensive to your needs. During the intensive, your time may involve Gottman, IFS and IFIO informed therapeutic work, understanding your relationship cycle and patterns, exploring the emotions and protective responses underneath conflict, working through relational injuries and disconnection, practicing new ways of communicating and responding to one another, and identifying practical ways to continue the work at home. You'll also receive resources to help you continue what you've started, along with a follow-up session to process and integrate the work after the.
A Different Kind of Space for Your Marriage
Marriage Intensives aren't about deciding who is right and who is wrong. They're about slowing down enough to understand how two people who love or once loved each other became caught in a painful pattern. Sometimes couples have been having the same fight for years, while others have stopped fighting altogether and feel disconnected. There may also be a betrayal or another significant injury that has altered the relationship. Whatever brings you in, the intensive creates the space to stop reacting long enough to understand what’s really happening and to begin finding a different way forward. Self-Leadership Center of Oklahoma O City, Oklahoma Marriage Intensives are scheduled following an initial consultation to determine appropriateness, goals, and the recommended length and therapist.
Choose the Level of Support That Fits Your
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Relationship Intensives
Sometimes a traditional 50-minute therapy session simply isn’t enough time to get to the heart of what is happening in a relationship. Relationship Intensives give couples dedicated, uninterrupted time to slow down, understand their patterns, work through difficult issues, and begin creating meaningful change.
Intensive Options & Pricing
IntensiveClinical TimeOne TherapistTwo Therapists
Half-Day3.5 hours$850$1,250
Full-Day6 hours$1,500$2,200
Two-Day12 hours$2,800$4,000
Three-Day18 hours$3,900$5,500
One-Therapist Intensives are offered with Brandt, Tiffany, or Duncan based on availability, clinical needs, and fit.
Two-Therapist Intensives are facilitated by Brandt and Tiffany together. Having two therapists provides additional perspective and support, particularly for couples working through more complicated or longstanding relationship concerns.
Which Intensive Is Right for Us?
Half-Day — Focus & Reset
A good fit for couples who want focused time to work on a specific concern, such as communication, recurring conflict, boundaries, intimacy, parenting, or reconnecting after a difficult season.
A half-day intensive allows us to identify the pattern, better understand what is happening underneath it, and begin practicing healthier ways of responding to one another.
Full-Day — Relationship Intensive
A full day gives us more time to understand your relationship as a whole rather than focusing on just one issue.
We’ll explore patterns of conflict, the emotions underneath those patterns, protective responses, communication, connection, and opportunities for repair. Couples will also have time to practice new ways of communicating and responding to one another during the intensive.
Two-Day — Repair & Reconnection
This format may be helpful for couples experiencing longstanding conflict, significant disconnection, betrayal, relational injuries, or patterns that have been difficult to change.
The additional time allows us to move beyond simply identifying the problem. We can spend more time understanding how these patterns developed, processing difficult experiences, working toward repair, and helping each partner experience the relationship differently.
Three-Day — Relationship Restoration
Our most comprehensive intensive provides couples with extended time to work through deeper or more complicated relationship concerns.
Over three days, we can explore your relationship history, identify patterns that have developed over time, work through deeper wounds, strengthen communication and emotional connection, practice new ways of relating, and develop a plan for moving forward.
What to Expect
Before a full-day or multi-day intensive, we’ll spend time getting to know you and your relationship. We want to understand what brings you in, your relationship history, the challenges you are currently facing, and what you hope will be different after the intensive.
During the intensive, the focus is not simply on talking about what is wrong. We’ll help you slow down the patterns that keep creating conflict or disconnection, understand what is happening underneath them, and practice new ways of communicating and connecting.
Our goal is for you to leave with a clearer understanding of your relationship, practical tools you can continue using at home, and a plan for continuing the work after your intensive.
